5 signs that You are an Insubordinate Employee at your Workplace. (Blog)

What does term an Insubordinate employee means?

Insubordinate employee at workplace refers to an employee who does not obey his/her supervisor. To describe it is one word "The Troublemaker" in the team. There are one or two troublemakers in an organization with bad attitude. And give their supervisors a tough time. Everyone wants to be best and popular at workplace. Everyone feels that she/he is right, but an insubordinate employee will never accept that he can be wrong as well. I, me and myself is very harmful attitude. Being good at your work is a positive attitude. But being trouble maker employee is negative popularity. 

At workplace some would like you and some may not same applies to our personal lives as well. And this is fine because we all are different and we think differently and there may be difference in opinion and this is normal. Critics help us to improve for better. Today the world has become very competitive and for a single job opening there are many applicants. 

So start respecting your job. People are struggling hard every day to get a job and you have one, the position which many dream of. There may be few problems. Life is not perfect and workplace is no exception. There are up's and down as well. But there is always a way out. However, an insubordinate employee will never have any solutions. He/She will not only create problems for others but for oneself too. Termination or Resignation is not a solution.

You need to realize soon this mistake of yours as if not today; it will start hurting your career soon. Don't be a insubordinate employee. Below are 5 characteristics that define an insubordinate employee.

1) Too Many Complains:

Do you have too many complaints at your workplace? Though it is not bad as it can help your employer to improve but when an employee complains too much it is an alarm. You have been hired to be part of a solution rather than complaining again and again. In today's scenario, employers are giving attention to employee satisfaction. Though it is very difficult to make everyone happy so when your company finds a solution, they have to look after everyone and it is not about you alone. But if you have complaint with everything then you need to work on yourself. Negativity does not only have bad effect on others but will affect you too. Be a part of solutions rather than being a trouble maker.

2) Not willing to Learn: 

Have you developed an attitude where, if someone tells you something you feel offended and are not willing to learn? You do not feel the need of training and when you have to attend some, you end up making fun of the training session. It is very important for you to realize that every new day is a new opportunity to learn. There has never been an individual and never will be who knows it all. Training not only help you polish your existing skills but they also help you develop new skills. No one is perfect, not even you. Learning is an ongoing process which cannot be stopped.

3) I know it all:

Are you acting as if you know everything? Do you act arrogant? "I" is a very dangerous word that can ruin entire team. You cannot know everything and listening plays a major role and remember listening is a skill and is an important one. Listening is the first important factor in communication skill. Good listener is a good communicator. Is it hard for you to admit that you do not know something? Knowing what you speak is very important. For example:

You are in an important meeting which is about promoting a product. But you do not know anything about the product and you decide to speak as one of your junior is speaking well and you are afraid that you will not be given any importance in the project. So you keep talking and end up looking like unprepared. Sometimes, it is fine to say I don't know. Learning from others doesn't make you small. I find it perfectly alright to not know sometimes. Research, learn and come back strong.

4) Do you lie:

As I always mention in all my training sessions, you can lie to world but you cannot lie to yourself. An employee who lies a lot is very dangerous to his/her team. Making excuses and not accepting your mistakes is something that I will put in the list of lies. Not taking responsibility and making excuses will neither help you nor it will help your team. Remember, lies cannot be hidden for too long. It will come out for sure and the day it happens you will not be respected. Answer a question; will you want a liar to be part of your team? 

Now let us take a case where you are part of an important project; however you have made a mistake which will cost huge loss to the company. You have already discovered it. If you discuss it with your boss he might become very angry with you and if you do not tell to anyone the blame would come on another colleague of yours. But by the time the damage would have been done. What will you do?

• Wait for them to discover. 
• Will keep quiet as you will never be blamed.
• Act shocked when it comes out.
• Will you inform accepting your mistake so that some action can be taken before the damage is done

5) Not willing to work in a team :

Is it very difficult for you to work in a Team? Working in an organization is not about you only, but there are other employees too. It is an entire team who is responsible. But, do you prefer to stay alone rather than in a team? While working in a team do you keep yourself away and talk behind the back, criticizing people. Do you always take credit of all the success? Working in a team is an important skill to possess. Being a team player is an important quality. Also are other colleagues to yours hesitating to work with you as in a team? 

Facing our weakness help us to improve for better

     

  

Have you died Humanity? (Poetry)

This poem that I write is  not Political,
It's is just about something I am not finding Logical.

This is not about who is right and who is Wrong,
It is about humanity to which we Belong.

Kulbhushan Jadhav is just not a Name,
But is a question asking the Same.


Have you died Humanity?
For it is Insanity.

I could not even believe,
That they did not feel his grieve.

Of course you three were so strong,
But still this was wrong.

Our heart cries out for his Mother,
And her sad face still Bothers.

Wife sat in front of Him,
Still looking so Dim.

Dressed by them as he was not there,
But no one seem to care.

Kulbhushan Jadhav is just not a Name,
But is a question asking the Same.

Have you died Humanity?
For it is Insanity.

With a mirror between them standing so Tall,
See the humanity Fall.

It is hard to Imagine,
But did you Examine.

All his scars were Hidden,
But that will not be forbidden.

Kulbhushan Jadhav is just not a Name,
But is a question asking the Same.

Have you died Humanity?
For it is Insanity.

Wish something could get you home Soon,

And that will be our Fortune.

Where your mother could hold You,

And no emotions are Queued.

Hope soon you get the love and care you Deserve,

While wife brings warm and delicious food to Serve.

Kulbhushan Jadhav is just not a Name,
But is a question asking the Same.

Have you died Humanity?
For it is Insanity.

5 Body Language to be controlled in an Interview. (Blog)

                    Are you preparing yourself for an interview?

There are different ways of preparing oneself for an interview and one of the most common platforms is GOOGLE. 

A candidate googles about the company, interview tips, how to answer some of the tricky questions etc. If you google about interview tips, you will come across many blogs helping you with interview tips, You will found blogs such as :

• Blogs on how to build your resume.
• Blogs on how to dress up for an interview.
• Blogs on Body Language

and much more.

However, today's blog is about 5 body language if not controlled can have negative effect on your interview.

First Body Language that make to my list is :

1) Smile :

Smiling face is loved by everyone but fake smile will not work well. Smiling face depicts that the candidate is confident, friendly with positive energy. Smile is an important part of Body Language and can play crucial role.Smile also means that you are happy and looking forward to join. But sometimes in over enthusiasm you can make a mistake by faking it. And fake smile will definitely not help you. Smiling face is important but smiling throughout the interview is not necessary. Know when and why to smile. When you meet interviewer greet with smile. Just to keep it simple do not overdo it.

An another important factor that makes to our list is :

2) Eye contact :

Eye contact shows that you are focused, confident and most importantly you are paying attention. There is a difference between maintaining eye contact and starring. Every one wants to be heard with attention and right amount of the eye contact is the key. The question that may arise is what is the right amount of eye contact. Early eye contact, while handshake or greeting is very important and smile is an added advantage. Eye contact shows that you are paying attention but that does not mean that you fix your eyes on the interviewer as it might make the other person conscious. While answering you can take break and then re-establish the eye contact again. If there are more than one interviewer then maintaining the eye contact with all becomes important. 

The next to the list is :

3) Handshake :

Handshake can be considered as the first gesture that you can display to an interviewer. While there are many do's of handshake, you can forget to read the dont's as well.

• Stand at the appropriate distance. Standing too close or very far can make it difficult to handshake. Standing too close does not speak too good about you and the other person can feel offended too. While standing too far can make an impression that you do not wish to shake hands.
• Right hand should be used for handshake.
• While shaking hands, hold the hand strong and shake it strongly two or three times and then release it.

But the most important factor is that while you want to have strong hand shake, do not put to much pressure to squeeze the fingers of the other person. Do not shake hands just because you practiced it. Situation plays an important role.

The next factor that is included in the list is :

4) Hand Gestures :

Paying attention during an interview is very important and displaying that you are paying attention is even more important.Smile and eye contact show that you are paying attention. For example : In an interview you did everything right. You maintained high amount of eye contact and you smiled too. However, throughout the interview you were fiddling with a pen or keys. This displays lack of confidence or over-confidence, it can display nervousness and even it can give impression that you are hiding something. Using hand gestures while talking shows that you are confident but too much use of hand can be annoying. 

The last point to be discussed is :

5) Facial Expression:

Interviews do not judge you only based upon question and answer round, but they also judge your body language. Lack of knowledge about Body language that depict something about your personality which you are not. Body language is a vast topic and I would be writing in detail about each topic in coming days.  However, now let us discuss about Facial Expression. In this blog we have already discussed about two important facial expression

• Smile
• Eye contact

Few more examples that can be added to Facial Expression list are 

• Laughing
• Frowning
• Raising your eye brows
• Closing your eyes 
• Widening your eyes. etc

Facial expressions can be tricky. So control it. Do not look blank but use positive Facial Expressions.

Yes! you are right, if you say in relationship does not mean you are wrong. (Blog)

Understanding, Communication, Dedication, Loyalty, Respect, these are not just words but are the base of any relationship. In fact, you can add more to the list. A strong relationship is based on understanding. An understanding that we both are equal. If your family becomes mine then my family is yours. I don't want to write this article based on sacrifices that women make for their families nor the challenges. As sometimes we fail when we say all men are wrong. There is no good man and no good woman, it's good or bad human being.

In a relationship, there is no place for ego because it destroys the most beautiful world that we create when married.

I have always believed that both men and women are equal, only the difference is that women have to face little more difficulties than men. That does not mean men lead an easy life.

Now the question is who is right a woman who leaves her home and comes to you expecting that you will take care of her or a man who becomes bad son if he speaks for a wife and if does not then bad husband. I don't mean say that mother in laws and daughter in laws are enemies but instead there are sometimes that both make it complicated. In their expectation, they forget a bad husband is a mother's son and a bad son is her husband.

There are times when a husband is right and wife is wrong or vice versa. There are times when daughter in law is right and mother in law is wrong or vice versa. Or both are right in their own ways.

When you live together there are dis- agreements and fights. This does not mean that the beauty of your relationship should be lost.

Communication plays the major role. I have seen the attitude of man towards a woman or woman's attitude towards a man that spoils their relationship.

You are earning but that's your responsibility. You are the man of the house and you are supposed to earn.

You are a woman and you are supposed to give birth, nothing great have you done all women go through labour pains.

Just a word thank you says it all for both.

We have become so busy in our lives that we forget to compliment each other. We forget that we both are incomplete without each other.

An argument finishes a relationship of love and care. When we argue and you say Yes! you are right that does not mean you are wrong. A relationship is based on equality and both have an equal right to express. If you step down when you realize you are wrong does not make you small.

Thank you for working so hard for us.

I love you for whatever you do for us

Trying to justify yourself even when you realize you are wrong that Ego. Sometimes both are right because we speak for ourselves but the moment we start speaking for each other all the disagreements vanish because when you speak for yourself you look at only on side of the coin.

Job Interview after Child. (Story)

Today I am going to share a story of a Girl. Richa was born in a middle-class family. She was a bright student and started her career in Corporate World. She did well and achieved success. She was good in whatever she did. Her superiors always showed believed in her abilities. She was enjoying her Success and then she fell in love with a boy. It was a perfect marriage. Richa left her job once she became a mother of an adorable daughter. But the story is not about this.

When her daughter grew, one day while breakfast her husband suggested her to start thinking about starting her career again.

The story is.

Richa sat the whole day thinking about it. She thought that it was indeed the right time to start. She left her job for her daughter as there was no one to look after her, but now she was grown. She was 5 years.

Richa decided to start her career again. She updated her resume and applied for a job. She was called up for an interview.

She was too excited and was very nervous at the same time. She was giving an interview after a long. She went blank when it came to preparations. She had done it many times before, but this interview she was not feeling confident. But she composed herself.

Finally, the day of the interview came. She went and gave an interview confidently and came home happy. The interviewer told her that they would call her soon.

After two days the interviewer called her and told that they would hire her, but cannot offer her Manager position as she was not working from last 5 years.

They had sent their offer on Email and she was asked to send an acceptance of same.

She replied over email as below:

Thank you for offering me a job. But I cannot join because the interviewer has failed to calculate my capabilities. I was not offered Manager position because I was not working for last 5 years. Dear Sir, I would like to correct you. I was working. I was working day and night without being paid. I was working as a housewife and a mother.

In these 5 years of experience, I have learned more than in any other job.

The nine months of pregnancy taught me to be patient. Labor pain taught me to stay strong in difficult times and after delivery, I was stronger than ever. I moved to a different level. I was a mother. I took care of my child and I realized that I was a good learner.  I adapted well to changes. I took good care of my daughter, husband and did household work too. In return, I learned Time Management. There are many other things which I have learned in the entire process.

Thank you and it was a pleasure meeting you, but the job offered to me does not do justice to my experience.

Am I dreaming too high. (About me)

I was born in a middle-class family who got best of what my to parents could afford. I went to a convent, got nice presents on my birthday and got almost everything that I wished for except those sports shoes and watch that my father promised me before he met with a car accident. An accident in which I lost my father.

Time keeps running at its own speed even though I wished it to slow down but it refused and it was I who had to speed up. I found myself with new aim and new phase as suddenly everything changed.

I was away from my family, away from that protection which my father has always provided me. Before I could think what I actually wanted, I was a hotelier competing with hotel management graduates. However, I soon realised that this is what I wanted and I was happy being in the hospitality industry.

I joined a hotel in Nasik as Guest Relation Executive. However, I started learning hotel operations on my own. Based on daily operation and Google search I started making my own notes.

The journey was not easy but I survived and did well till I decided to do something of my own. I started Voyage Creating ( why I named it is so is a different story). There are times when I get stressed, tired and ready to give up when not getting a positive response, being questioned on my experience. On failures I do question myself Am I dreaming too high?

I have learnt many lessons from my life. My life has taught me, to be honest, and not to lose hope. It has taught me to stay focus. There may be failures in my life but I know they are going to be pillars in my success story one day.

My career does not depend on my Husband's Career. We are two different individuals. (Blog)

I am writing this blog on the behalf of all women to those men who believe that our career depends on our husband's career. There is at least one man I know who feels that a woman's career depend on her husband. 

I went for an interview couple of days ago when the interviewer suddenly told me this and you know my reaction was "WHAT".

I have always believed throughout my life in gender equality. If a girl has challenges in her life, the boys too don't have an easy life. I am a daughter of a working mom and I am proud of her. My mother has done hard work in her life and so my father. Sometimes, I feel that the society has been suppressing woman so much that the credit that should be given to man has not been given. The issue should not be Men or Women; rather it should be what kind of human being you are. Same way the hiring criteria should be skill based nor gender based. 

Now, this brings me to an important point that getting married does not slow down a girl's career and pregnancy does not end it. I always wonder that why should women leave their jobs when pregnant. 

Let's take an example of Kareena Kapoor Khan. Before I write further, let me tell you that I am not a Kareena Kapoor fan nor I am her hater. I choose to give her example as we women have to face many challenges when it comes to career along with pregnancy. 

Before Saif Ali Khan and Kareena Kapoor confirmed that she was pregnant, it seemed the media went crazy. There were pictures posted by media highlighting her baby bump. Kareena not only kept working throughout this beautiful phase of her life but also gave some words of wisdom. 


She shut the mouth of people by saying, "Don't look at pregnancy as some sort of disease. It's the most beautiful phenomenon that can happen to woman." She also made a statement at one of her interview," There is nothing wrong with being pregnant. In fact, it's a joy."

I believe that this was not only a perfect reply to media but also to our society, where people around pregnant women go crazy. Especially those crazy advises which are given to every pregnant woman. Once a woman is pregnant everyone around her becomes an expert. All she needs is good gynecologists, love and care. Kareena not only made some bold statements to career versus pregnancy but also has led by example. She worked in ads and walked ramps gracefully. 

I hope that any woman's marital status or pregnancy does not become a criteria for hiring. A woman is strong and become even stronger after being a mother. Do not count her less or more just because she is married or un-married. Being a mother is an added skill not her weakness. Treat her as an individual and if she has decided to work respect it. Do not lose an employee who could be an asset to your organization. Judge her on the quality on skill she has in her personality.    

Must Know Tips if you want to Avoid Failure in an Interview. (Blog)

Interview is an important part of hiring process. Though it is very difficult to judge a person in just one meeting. It is a real test not only for candidate but interviewer too. Hiring right candidate is very crucial for employers too. I have given many interviews and observed that there different judging techniques that employer use. Which has always made me wonder have they judged me right?

But then to proceed this is the process and we have to prove ourselves to the employer. There are times when I have taken the interviews and then there were times when I have appeared for interviews. I have met the interviewer who have been very supportive while some who were very rude to me.

There are many incidents when I failed to understand my rejections. Once I applied in a resort for guest relations and was rejected by the Resort Manager. He rejected after reviewing my resume. No telephonic interview, no personal interview and I was rejected. After one year I got a call from same company offering me job for some other location. And it was the same organization where I was promoted as Manager in my first appraisals.

Though I don't disagree to interviews but still believe that the process could be improved. However, that's the process and you have to stand out in that one interview and prove yourself. While I believe rejection in an interview does not define your capabilities but failure can help you learn and move on. 

Here are some tips to help you before an Interview. Below points are more about your mental strength then being technical.

1) Focus : 

Be focused. Remember a silly mistake and you could be rejected. While waiting for turn, be calm and patient and do not think too. Keep your mind calm but don't lose your focus. Over-thinking can distract you. Forget all the problems that you may have. Do not think about any previous interviews and what happened there. It is a new day with new interviewer. All the preparations have been done now it's time to deliver. So give it your best shot. Be focused and remain calm. 

2) Know Yourself : 

You can lie to world but not to yourself. You know your strength and weaknesses. Use it to your advantage. Even you can use your weaknesses to your advantage. Never go defensive in an interview process. I had once done that mistake in one of the interviews and was rejected on the spot. Be bold about yourself. No one is perfect. 

3) Research : 

Never attend an interview without a research. Read about the company. Read the job postings and understand the requirement. If it is possible try to find out about the interviewer. If you have a friend working in the company ask about company's core value or even you can google to find some information about interviewer.

4) Positive Energy : 

Think good. Feel happy about yourself. Let positive energy flow and it will reflect in you body language. Things can be difficult. People may not talk good about you. Give your 100% and if today things do not happen. Tomorrow will definitely be brighter. Staying positive will help you over come any situation. But always give an interview to get selected. Do not let negativity take control.

5) Know what you speak : 

Try not to give wrong answer. If you don't know anything admit it. Be sure of what you are speaking. Just don't talk or lie just to create impression. Sometimes it can work against you.

6) Switch Off your Phone : 

Switch off your phone. Do not even keep it on vibrator. It may distract you and give wrong impression of you to interviewer.

7) Body Language : 

Maintain you Body Language. Right from standing to sitting posture. Don't look lethargic. Don't play with the pen, pencil, finger etc.It can depict many qualities about you personality.

8) Listen : 

Be an active listener and do not interrupt. Listen what the interview is talking and then reply. In simple language expressing is important but listening is equally important. 

9) Patience : 

While answering be patient and at any point do not argue. Speak what you feel but be polite, do not sound rude.

10) Resume : 

The most important of all. Know what is written in your Resume. Don't copy paste.  

Believe in yourself. Stay Strong, Stay Positive. All the best 

One Thing That Can Stand In The Way Of Positive Life and Is Your Worst Enemy. (Blog)

Depression is that one thing that can stand in the way and stop you from leading a positive life. I never wished for a perfect life because I know that it could never be perfect but I always wished for a beautiful life because I know that life is and always will be beautiful. Life will always has it's own ups and downs. Success and Failures are part of our life. Failures can lead to stress. But I don't consider Stress bad.

Stress is not bad till you know how to handle it. Hold a paper in your hand and stretch your arm out, keeping it straight. You can hold on easily for sometime but after a certain period of time your arm starts hurting. The paper in you hand is Stress and stretched arm is your ability to handle it. This ability to handle stress can differ from person to person. To relieve your hand from pain what should you do ?

You should release the paper. And that's what exactly should be done with Stress. Let it go.

But I place depression in danger zone. Do not let stress convert in Depression. Stress is temporary and if handled will go. But is stress is continued it leads to Depression.

What is depression? If you google you may find multiple definitions. But I define it as a emotion that stops you from being what you are. And we need to understand that depression in not about feeling demotivated alone. It is much more than that. It is not only state of your mood but a mental status that needs to be spoken out.

The fight against stress is easy but against depression, it's not easy. But is it so difficult? I want you to ask yourself before you become victim to this so called DEPRESSION.
I have always believed that every individual is a winner. The first battle that we ever won was with our birth and surviving to what we call Life. We all are born winners so how can we loose to anything.

I do agree that there are times when everything seems to be going against us. There are times when we fail. But always remember today's failure become pillars in tomorrow's SUCCESS.

Never I repeat Never compare yourself to anyone, no matter how much others do. You are special in your own very way. Stay positive in your life because life may seem difficult but remember it is Beautiful.

Even for me. My life is not perfect but it is beautiful and just because there are few downs in my life I don't want to loose the beauty of being ALIVE.

If there are hundred reasons in my life to cry, I try to find one single reason to SMILE and believe me I don't have to struggle for that One Reason.

Talk to yourself.

• Life is Beautiful.
• I am winner and nothing can pull me down.
• I will fight .
• I can and I will.

Be positive and do not give up. Every time you fall, Stand and fight back because if you think you can then you can and no one can pull you down.Take a step back and think. 

Taking a step back does not mean you gave up rather it means you will come back and this time strike hard to Succeed.

Do something good. Help someone in need and believe me it will make you feel better. Find you own ways that can help you feel better

Do not lock yourself. Speak your heart out. If you feel scared to speak to your parents go speak to someone who can understand you. In that matter you can take help of professional Counselor as well there is nothing wrong in it. Remember it may seem easy to give up. But once you give up it is the worse feeling and it keeps you bothering.

Be a WINNER, Be a HERO, Be an INSPIRATION to yourself and world will look up to you.

SMILE and be a reason for Someone else's  SMILE too.
  

How to overcome failure with ease using these tips. (BLOG)

When a person does not get desirable result he/she terms it as failure. Let me admit to fact that failures hurt, it does not feel good. Actually they don't go down well. I hate failures and rejections too. It feels bad. But failures happen and everyone encounters it.We all have faced failures in our life. It happens to all of us.

Failures are set backs. They come in the way of our success. Feeling bad about it is absolutely fine. Let's all agree that we all wand to be successful and apart from it there could be many reasons for hating failures. Some of them are listed below:

Parents Expectation

Social Pressure

Out of Shame

Fear of being isolated

Fear of being an example of failure

We fear failure so much that sometime we tend to ignore the efforts put in. For Example,

During exams some of us do not study, do not pay attentions to class lectures but while results are being declared we want to score passing marks.

The reason for hoping good marks are not for the efforts that we put in but for the reason listed above. My parents will scold, my friends and relatives will make fun and so on. Success or failure reflects the efforts made by a person in particular assignment which could be school examination, college examination, interview  etc. 

If one puts efforts and fail. It's Fine. But if there are no efforts then it is not fine. The reason why I say this is because you can learn from your failure through various methods.

Self-Awareness

Taking Feedback

And much more

If one failed without putting any efforts that means either failure happened because of non-seriousness or over-confidence.And this attitude is the biggest barrier in the way to Success. One need to understand the need of hard work and Success. Life is precious and we have one of it. We all dream and fulfilling them is what we should aim at. We all have our own dreams, some of us work hard to achieve and some of us quit.As I always say "You cannot be defeated it is only that you gave up just before being the winner".

Success is leaning from your mistakes and never repeating them. Below are some ways to overcome failure and move on.

1) Failures are not Bad.

   Remember, failure is a temporary phase  and can be converted into Success if used as a tool for improvement. Success is fixing the mistakes which led to failure. I totally agree that failure can lead to mental pressure as even if you take it as a lesson, people will continuously talk about it and keep reminding you that you failed. But you need to understand that today's failure will lay the foundation of tomorrow's Success. 

2) Talk to Yourself.

  Talking to yourself is an important process in overcoming failures. As I wrote before that people will remind you of your failure again and again. So talking to yourself play a major role. Remind yourself that it is an temporary yet very important phase. It can either make you or break you. You can definitely pull it off. Remind yourself that this is not end of everything. Overcoming failure is the first step towards Success. So it is very important for you to explain it to yourself than anyone else.

3) Take Time.

  Failures are difficult to handle and overcoming them is not an easy job. You are reminded of your failure again and again. It exhausts you mentally. Feeling bad about your failure is fine but important is learning from the mistakes. Now, that you have spoken to yourself, do no jump in the evaluation and learning process. Though you might have accepted failure but somewhere it still hurts.The guilt and shame could be still inside you. The guilt and shame can become barrier in the way of learning as you could get defensive about your failure. You need to be honest when evaluating your failure. Therefore, sit and relax. Do something that you love. Spend sometime for yourself. Make your mind free. Remember it is you failure and it will be a learning for you.And that takes me to the next point.

4) Be Honest.

 Now that you have spoken to yourself and took time to relax. It's time to learn and make sure that the mistakes do not happen again. Before you start evaluating remember you failed because something was not right. And to evaluate "that something" you need to be true to yourself. 

5) Do not make excuses.

  Do not make failure your weakness instead convert it into strength. 

How?

Failure can help you identify your weaknesses, polish existing skills and develop new skills. Let's do a Case study where Amit and Vivek failed their examination.

Case 1

Amit was very upset and decided to perform better and he evaluated himself. He concluded to below points

I failed because of

• Lack of  concentration
• Inattentive during class lectures
• Time Table not followed 
• Bad Handwriting
• Writing speed to be increased.

The above helped him to improve as he improved his concentration level. He started paying attention in the class during lectures. Did revisions and followed time-table. Improved his handwriting and writing speed.  

Thus, improved his grade.

Case 2      

On other hand Vivek concluded to below points

• Questions were out of syllabus.
• Question paper was tough compared to last year.
• Marking was strict.

Vivek had no action plan and there was no improvement in his grades.

Conclusion:

Remember failures when you give 100% is learning. Accept failure because it can help you. But do not over think. Failures are part of our life and that does not mean that you give up. Stay away from negativity, it is very important. Respect yourself and have faith in yourself. But do not forget that there is a very thin line between confidence and over-confidence. 

My father taught me. (Poetry)

 

Poetry

Today as I write, I feel sad, 

Because I am missing my dad.

Once my father told, 

Life is tough, But you be bold.

People will tell you that you are wrong, 

But you stand strong.

You will make mistake, 

But that does not mean you break.

Today as I write, I feel sad,

Because I am missing my dad.

Life is and always will be beautiful,

But you make it wonderful.

Things are not going to be easy, 

But you don't be greedy.

Believe in yourself, 

But remember life is not about oneself.

I remember once you told me don't rely on others, 

Sometime even we may not stand for you. No father, brother or mother.

Look up to yourself when in pain, 

And that definitely will bring you gain.

When in problem know who are you,

And that's your clue.

Today as I write, I feel sad, 

Because I am missing my dad.

Simple Guidance for you in failure. (BLOG)

I would start this blog by writing, How blessed are we to have this life. We all want to have a perfect life. when things not happen the way we plan, we get tensed, disappointed and stressed. Today the world has become very competitive and we all want to success. Since childhood we are taught that failure is a bad thing. Failures are not Bad.

Yes! Failures are not good. But if you fail that does not mean failures are bad.

Failure is an opportunity for us to come back with more force. Giving your best. It's an opportunity to lean and make things right. It is a real test of you. As I believe, you cannot be defeated, it's just that you give up before winning.

Winning and losing does matter. But what matters more is the journey that leads you to Win or Lose. If you win look back and learn from what you did right and if you lose do look back and learn from what you did wrong. 

Let me not sound like a great girl who has a perfect life and the one who is not effected by failure. I too get effected by failures. Here is a real life incident to tell you that failures really bad. It is an incident that took place a few days back

I went for an interview and let me admit I was confident as I was well prepared for it. As I sat for the interview, the interviewer questioned me something that took him with surprise or re-phrase is this way that it was sometime I was not expecting. It went the way I never imagined. Then something strange happened. While I was still speaking when the interviewer stopped me in middle to say," I will not hire you"

It all got over. I thanked him and left. I really can't explain what it felt like. I was holding my tears and walked out of premises. I wanted to scream and cry. Something was choking me. I would not lie, Yes I cried when I came back home. I cried like a small kid. My entire career came in front of my eyes. My failures, success, promotions,awards everything. 

Next I washed my face, took a pen and paper to write what went wrong. I did realize that should have taken feedback from the interviewer. However, I called a friend who is a Human Resource Manager and asked for her help in reviewing my interview taking her suggestions too. I learned from this incident and moved on.

Today as I writ this blog I feel that the incident has helped me grow stronger.

Coming back to failures, they are the strong pillars on which the success stories are laid. I cannot be everything but can become Something. Do not be ashamed of you failures. I am not.

Stand strong because the day we failed is the day when we learned something new. Always remember you are Special. Do no compare yourself with any one. Not everyone will love you but not everyone will hate you. Failing in not negative but negativity is failure.. Positive energy can convert your failure in Success. 

Let's not wish for a perfect life because it will and cannot be perfect. Instead wish for beautiful life because life is and always will be beautiful     

5 Little tricks to achieve the best results in Self-Awareness. (BLOG)

In my previous blogs I have discussed about Self-Awareness. In case you have not read my previous blogs you can visit the below links. These would be helpful for you to understand Self-Awareness.

   1) 5 Signs you should invest in Self-Awareness
   2) 10 Quick tips about Self-Awareness
   3) How to know yourself to develop positive personality?

Self-Awareness is learning about oneself and bringing positive changes.

In this blog will discuss about 5 Little tricks to achieve the best results in Self-Awareness.

1) Talk to yourself :

One need to understand that lack of confidence and over-confidence, both are harmful. Same way under estimating and over estimating yourself can prove equally harmful to your Self-Awareness activity. Before starting the entire process talk to yourself. Self-Awareness is about estimating oneself. Stand in front of the mirror and look into your eyes. Be true to yourself and talk to yourself explaining why it is important.

2) Planning :

Planning can prove to be an important tool. Plan in advance, what you want to achieve, how you will you achieve. Remember planning can be crucial. Be practical and plan accordingly.

3) Ask Questions :

During entire process ask questions to yourself. How, Why, When, How many times and so on.

4) Record  :

Make a journal about yourself. Write the Objective you want to you want to achieve. Start recording your progress and mistakes because those are the key areas of improvement.

5) Feedback :

It can play major role in Self-Awareness. Do not hesitate to take advice or feedback from family, friends and boss. Evaluate the feedback received.


  

5 Signs you should invest in Self-Awareness. (BLOG)

In  last blog 10 Quick tips about Self-Awareness, I have written about what Self-Awareness is and tips on it. In case you missed reading it, please click the link to read.

Do you really need Self Awareness?

It is a continuous learning process and should be done at regular intervals. You should be aware about yourself than any other person. Over-thinking can be dangerous. It is very important  for one to understand the need of Self-Awareness. Bringing out the best in you is what Self-Awareness does.

It is an important tool for Self- Improvement.

In this blog we will discuss about five signs that tell you, it's time for you sit back and talk to yourself. It's time for Self-Awareness.

5 Signs you should invest in Self-Awareness

1) Confidence Level : 

Being Confident is one of the best traits in ones personality. If you notice a drop in your confidence level or hesitation while taking decision. Lack of confidence while taking decisions indicate that something is wrong and you need to address the issue. Talk to yourself. There is something wrong that needs to be corrected. 

2) Too Defensive :   

Receiving feedback in right manner can really help you to improve and get better. If you get too defensive while receiving the feedback it's an indication for you. Making excuses has helped no-one and is not going to help you either.

3) Too many repeated mistakes :

Are you making mistakes? That's fine. You can control that. You can learn but if you are making too many repeated mistake it is a danger sign. Mistakes happen, everyone make mistakes. Leaning from mistakes and never repeating them is what we should aim at. However, making again and again signs that it time for self-awareness. 

4) Negative Attitude :

Negative think does not help. If the negative thinking is taking over, you need to act fast. Negativity thinking is not harmful to you professionally but personally too.It can cause unwanted stress. Staying positive is very important and key to happy life.

5) Change in Personality

Are you feeling changes in your personality which are not good then you need to take corrective actions. Adapting good qualities in your personality is important but maintaining and polishing the existing ones are equally important.

Self -Awareness leads to growth in ones life. There are times when you need help or assistance from someone, but most of the time Self-Awareness can definitely prove to be handy tool. 

10 Quick tips about Self-Awareness. (BLOG)

 

Self- Awareness is an ability to recognize oneself. As I Have mentioned in my earlier blog.

 

Know Yourself.

Know your Strengths and face your Weaknesses.

 

Knowing yourself is Self-Awareness. Before I write further let’s understand that we are not perfect. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. It’s not only about Weaknesses but also acknowledging Strengths too. Positives and negatives are part of our life. We all want to improve and learn. The initiative is what is needed. Let’s ask a question to ourselves.

 

“Should I improve or live with your weaknesses?” 

 

If the answer is, “Yes! I want to improve”.

Read the blog further.

 

Improving yourself is difficult without admitting that you need to bring change in your life. A positive change, Self-Awareness is a simple step towards self-Improvement. Never ever in the entire process feel negative about yourself. Weakness is the road that leads towards a stronger version of you. 

How can weaknesses make you Stronger? 

Every person has one’s own personality, strengths and weaknesses. Facing your weaknesses and overcoming them means converting your weaknesses into strengths. 

Thus, adding more strength to your personality. 

 

Below are 10 quick tips about Self-Awareness

 

1) Know Yourself- An important tool towards Self-Awareness. Read my blog Know Yourself as it will help you to understand the entire process in details. Without knowing yourself Self-Awareness cannot happen. It is the first and powerful tool. You are the best judge to judge yourself. This leads to the second point, which is honestly.

 

2) Honesty- Self-Awareness will not be successful if you are not honest with yourself. Be honest and understand why it is important.  

Remember: Self-Awareness is an important tool for Self- Improvement.

Identify yourself, your needs and will to do so. Be truthful, be fair and take it in an honorable way. It is an honest opinion of you about yourself. You can fool the world but not yourself. No one is listening and you are the one who will benefit.  

 

3) Record- Write down what you feel about yourself, the changes that you want to bring, how you will do and your achievements. Keep the record of all of them. Give ten minutes for yourself. Writing helps. Write about your strengths, areas for improvement, goals, hobbies, dreams, what you did right, what went wrong and on some day do write how you feel about yourself. 

 

4) Set Goals- Now all the talking, realizations, recordings are done. It’s time to get real. Change can be difficult. Self-Awareness is a process and cannot happen overnight. It will take time. In beginning things could get messy therefore, it is important to set goals. Know what you want to achieve and give your best. If the end result is not what you aimed at, do not give up try and you will achieve. During the process, you will learn many things, yet setting goals can really be helpful.

 

5) Positive Attitude- Stay positive about yourself. No matter what never get negative about yourself. Negativity is the biggest barrier in the way of Self-Awareness. Often talk to yourself. Admitting that there is a problem that I need to address is a victory itself in Self-improvement. Be True, Stay strong and positive.

 

6) Patience- Another tool to help you with Self-Awareness is Patience. It is a skill that helps you not only to realize the need but also assist you during the entire process. It will help you to implement. Let me repeat, “Self-Awareness is an important factor in Self-Improvement”. Do not rush to understanding yourself. Take time, ask few questions to yourself.

Do I really want Self-Awareness? 

Am I ready?

Will I be able to?

And if your answer is                                                    

Yes, I want to.

Yes, I am ready

Yes, I will stay strong and positive.

You are ready and Self-Awareness will help you to bring positive change in your personality.     

 

7) Don’t over think- Yes! You read it right. Do not over think. Self-Awareness need thinking but over thinking can cause stress. Do not try to bring out un-necessary problems. We want positive changes. At no point compare yourself with others. You are special. You have your own strengths and qualities. You cannot be perfect. No one is. Excess of everything is bad. Learn from your mistakes and move ahead. 

 

8) Self-Appreciation- Self Appreciation is as important as Self-Awareness. In the entire process of Self-Awareness do talk about your good points too. Explain them to yourself. Self-Awareness is about knowing your strengths and strengthening them. Adding new skills are important but polishing the existing ones is equally important. 

 

9) Focus- Whatever you do, don’t ever lose your focus. Life is beautiful and it deserves to be lived beautifully. Self-Awareness is to let you know that there are certain things about you that can be changed and certain things that are beautiful. Focus what you aim at. Positivity and self-believe plays a major role here.            Remember: You cannot be defeated; it’s only that you gave up before victory. 

 

10) Self-Assessment: Self-Awareness is a learning process that needs revision and self-assessment too. Give feedback to yourself and prepare a review about yourself.

  

Tips to Remember

 

“Know your strengths and face your weaknesses”

“Self-Awareness leads to Self-Improvement”

“Be honest with yourself. Cheating cannot help”

“Change can be difficult but end result is positive"

“Stay Strong and Positive”